QuestionHow do you give back to yourself when you can’t afford spa treatments, fancy yoga studio classes, retreat weekends, concerts, plays and the like … or even a really nice dinner out with the hub?  When you’re just scraping by and already worrying about giving what you can to your family and children, how do you spoil yourself? – Tara, New Smyrna Beach, FL

Jenny says: Great question, Tara. There are lots of “free” ways to treat yourself. One of my faves is soaking in a bubble bath and reading a book or listening to an inspiring audio or music. I also love taking walks with my kids. We just got a double stroller for Hanukkah and we’re having fun with that. There’s nothing sweeter than nature so enjoy the beauty that is all around you. Go for a hike. Go for a run. Take a journal and look at the ocean. Paint what you see. Enjoy it!

How about starting a tradition at home that you can get really excited about? We recently started a weekly movie night and my 3-year-old goes crazy for it. Easy breezy and lots of fun.

I also suggest that you work on creating a wealthy mindset. Thinking of yourself as broke or scraping by gets really old, really fast. You’ll stay in that place forever if you aren’t willing to shift the way you think. One great book you MUST read: “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. I’m sure your local library has it. It’s a classic that has been read by millions. A gem!

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My Confession: Faith, Breaking Free + Dr. King

by Jenny on January 16, 2012

On a day when we honor Martin Luther King, Jr., a man who risked his own life to make his dream of equal rights for all a reality, I’ve chosen to read many of the words he spoke during his lifetime. What a visionary. One of my favorite places to read quotes and sayings is www.brainyquote.com. You can search by topic or person and you’ll find a wealth of cool data.

One of my favorite quotes of Dr. King’s is this:

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.

Exactly one year ago, I had a dream … to FINALLY get clear about my path in life and business. To finally get clear about who I serve, the magic I offer, and the legacy I want to leave in the world.

You see, I had been in business for myself for 3 years at that point. Things were going well, but I have a confession to make: I felt a bit lost, a bit muddy, a bit scattered. Yup, me the woman and coach who may seem uber-confident and “put together” on the outside was swimming around in a sea of confusion. Ugh.

To help paint a picture, my business and personal life had transformed a lot during that time … I stepped away from freelance conference production work and leading in-person moms support groups and truly embraced my global coaching and information marketing business … I fine-tuned my niche a few times to best represent the types of women I wanted to serve … I had a child and was pregnant with baby #2 … I moved from the bright lights of New York City to the cultured country of the Berkshires … and I let go of some relationships that sucked me dry (that’s what energy vampires will do if you let them) to focus on spending time with people who fueled me and got me.

So in January of last year, I wanted to ensure that what I was creating in the world was still in line with the evolved vision I had for my life. I’d fallen in the trap of doing work in the past that robbed me of my top values of freedom, flexibility and family … and you’d better believe that I wasn’t going back there. It sucks.

Because I believe in getting HELP from experts, teachers and guides (the best investment you can make is on your own education and growth), I hired a top mentor to guide me on this quest: Fabienne Fredrickson of www.clientattraction.com.

Me + Fabienne after my "hot seat". What an experience!

 

It was faith over fear that allowed me to fork over $2,000 for the chance to spend the day with her and a handful of other heart-centered entrepreneurs for our coaching intensive meeting. Gulp.

Of course there was a massive snowstorm the day before our meeting, so much so that my mom (who flew up from Florida to watch my son) suggested that perhaps the meeting would be cancelled. But I wouldn’t be derailed. Your dreams have a way of pushing you like that once you’ve tapped into what those dreams are.

So off I went for my 3-hour drive to Stamford, Connecticut, 6 months pregnant and all. The roads were full of snow, but I enjoyed the ride, drove slow and steady, and stayed focused on my quest.

The day with Fabienne and the others was spectacular. It was there, while I was up in the “hot seat,” that I got clear about so many things:

  • My message: “Find Your Path. Leave a Legacy. Enjoy the Ride.”
  • My legacy: Empowering women (you!) to be gutsy leaders in sharing your gift with the world
  • My next “big” move that will change everything: Writing my book
  • Clarity around who I am: A lightworker
  • How to share my big work with the world without losing my connection to my family or to myself
  • How to think bigger and break through fear
  • Why holding myself back hurts more than just me
  • Why being coached by someone whose walked the road I want to walk shortens my learning curve and makes my life a ton easier and more fun

I immediately went home and started hosting this transformative days for my clients (how could I hold back something as transformative as what I had experienced?!), only I designed them as private VIP days for one client and myself … and they were spectacular. (You can read more about those days here).

Well, fast forward one year and here I am, about to host one of these days in New York City (my former home) for a handful of smart, savvy ladies who are ready to break free from a blah life, from a life that looks good on the outside, but is painfully not “you” anymore (or was it ever?) on the inside.

It’s the VIP Coaching Intensive, it’s happening in 11 days, and it’s freakin’ amazing. (And it’s priced very affordably at a lot less than $2,000!)

And if you’ve been considering it, but have been afraid to take the leap, well it’s time to learn from Dr. King and take that step even IF you can’t see the whole staircase. That’s exactly what one of the gals who has stepped up to join me has done.

Read her words …

“Dear Jenny,

I don’t have ANY money and I didn’t hesitate for one second. I will be living the next few months on CREDIT with an abundance mindset and after I pay my income taxes there will be money left over to pay off my accrued credit card debt! Can I put a price on my sanity or having a great 11 months? Nope and if I could I’m sure it would be a lot more than I paid! I remembered “JFDI” from the first phone call I listened to of yours. Plus, I missed the Retreat for Goddesses this past summer and planned on going this summer so to me it’s like getting NYC FREE and the 3-day Retreat at a great price!” – Julia Slike, Independent Senior Director of Thirty-One Gifts

You’ll notice Julia mentioned that she scored a complimentary registration to the Retreat for Goddesses. She’s a smart cookie! Well, in the spirit of wanting you to experience the transformation that awaits you at BOTH the VIP Coaching Intensive this month AND the Retreat for Goddesses this summer, I’ve decided to offer you this chance to score your complimentary registration to the retreat (your travel and lodging costs are additional) when you apply and are accepted into the VIP Coaching Intensive … but this offer DISAPPEARS midnight tomorrow, January 17.

You’re not going to want to miss either experience. I promise.

Get all the details here and put your faith in action.

I’ll sign off today with another fantastic quote by Dr. King. Let it sink in … there is so much truth in it, it brings me to tears …

“If a man hasn’t discovered something that he will die for, he isn’t fit to live.”

Sending you love, faith and purpose in abundant measures.

xoxo

Jenny

P.S. If you’re wondering, “JFDI” means: “Just freakin’ do it.”

P.P.S. It’s okay if you share this with a friend. Sure, the offer I laid out above can be transferred, but only until TOMORROW at midnight Eastern.

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Prosperity Soup: A New Twist On An Old Tradition

January 5, 2012

Guest Post by Dawn Falcone *This is the third guest post in our series by members of the Gutsy Goddess Society. Members were given the opportunity to share their holiday and New Year’s traditions and rituals with the Zen Jenny community. Enjoy! My family has been eating lentil soup on New Year’s Day for as [...]

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Traditions: Childhood Memories and the Fabric of Life

January 3, 2012

Guest Post by Julia Slike + her 5-year-old daughter Lexie *This is the second guest post in our series by members of the Gutsy Goddess Society. Members were given the opportunity to share their holiday and New Year’s traditions and rituals with the Zen Jenny community. Enjoy! I asked my daughter who is 5 what [...]

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Yoga 101: Which Style is Best for You?

January 2, 2012

Guest Post by Maria Rainier For years now, yoga has been a go to physical activity for those wishing to gain a healthier lifestyle physically, mentally, and spiritually. While there are numerous different styles of yoga, nearly all yoga styles are focused on developing control of your body and mind through different physical poses. While [...]

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A Cup of Hot Chocolate: A Tradition Lost, A Tradition Found

December 29, 2011

Guest Post by Sandra Wapniarski, Creator of www.bewomensnetwork.com *This is the first guest post in our series by members of the Gutsy Goddess Society. Members were given the opportunity to share their holiday and New Year’s traditions and rituals with the Zen Jenny community. Enjoy! What a life, what a journey. 2011 was a year [...]

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How Well Do You REALLY Know Your Inner Circle?

December 19, 2011

My friend started an email chain this week. I know what you’re saying – ack! Who has time for those things? Well, she sent this email to our crew of eight mamas. The eight of us met for the very first time about three years ago in a new mom’s support group in our Upper [...]

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The Invitation: Meeting Your Heart’s Longing

December 17, 2011

My yoga teacher shared something with our class this week. A poem that stirred up a lot. Now I share it with you … When you read it, really let the words penetrate deep into your soul, okay? The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I [...]

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Question Corner: Snuffing Out the Negative Chatter

December 9, 2011

Question: Got any ideas for self-help type books that can help me snuff out the negative chatter? – Alli, New York, NY Jenny says: Oh Alli, do I! Ya, the negative chatter is something I know all too well. Sounds like you are ready to quiet the monkey mind and tell the inner critic to [...]

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Blessings At 81 Years Old

November 24, 2011

Guest Post by Sidney Fenig, M.D. Hi! Iʼm Sidney and I woke up one day, and realized that Iʼm now 81 years old. How and when this happened is an enigma to me! You see, Iʼm still not sure about the whole thing. I remember being a little boy, in Newburgh, New York, the last [...]

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