The Spirit of Democracy: Remaining Silent Isn’t an Option

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Today here in the United States, we sit on the precipice of one of the most important presidential elections in the history of our country.

So it seems fitting to offer you up a podcast episode focusing on the spirit of democracy, voting and using your voice.

Listen, I know that this presidential campaign has been ROUGH.

I’ve seen, heard and felt some things that are ugly, sad, disheartening and unbelievable.

AND … I’ve seen, heard and felt some things that are amazing, exciting, joyful and awe-inspiring.

This election cycle has been wild. Seriously.

And even though I’ve been super frustrated by a lot of what has gone on with all of the major parties (and the media), you better believe that today I’ll be at my local fire station – the site of our polling place – VOTING.

Especially as a woman, I know that it wasn’t so long ago that I didn’t have this right to cast a vote. The old laws essentially said, “Lady, your voice doesn’t matter as much as a white man’s voice.”

And I thank my sisters who were part of the women’s suffrage movement who FOUGHT (oftentimes sacrificing their lives) for my right to cast my ballot.

So I dedicate this episode of Get Gutsy to them, the Suffragettes.

I hope you enjoy it.

Get out the vote.

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All right, loves. Have an amazing day. Thanks for tuning in.

This is Jenny Fenig sending you so much love, light and faith as you GET GUTSY. I’ll see you next time.

Enjoy!

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Your Wild + Precious Life

One of the gorgeous gals in our tribe posted this GEM in the Get Gutsy Galaxy Facebook forum (join now if you haven’t yet).

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First off, I LOVE that Jessica represents the type of LEADERS we have in our crew. A woman willing to SPEAK UP and USE HER VOICE to spread GOODNESS in the world.

How would YOU answer the question?

It’s easy to skim over this or simply delete the email (life’s so FULL, right?!), but I truly encourage you to PAUSE and FEEL into your answer RIGHT NOW.

Take a breath.

Pause.

What comes up for you?

I want to know!

Seriously, I want you to tell me!

Everyone who posts a response to this post is going to get a SHOUT-OUT on a future episode of my podcast Get Gutsy, which has hit the “New + Noteworthy” list in all 3 categories on iTunes.

I want to SAY YOUR NAME.

ACTION STEP >>

Go here to join the group + post your response.

SPEAK UP. Be a leader, not a lurker.

See you there.

I’ll respond personally to your post. Because that’s how I roll.

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild + precious life?” – Mary Oliver

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Why Being Quiet Leads to Bigger Shifts, Ideas + Sales

How often do you speak to avoid the uncomfortable feeling of silence?

Do you chit chat nonstop for fear of the pause?

Be honest.

I used to be a CHIT CHAT QUEEN.

Quiet?

That was SO scary to me.

Especially in social situations. Not only would I fill the air with whatever came out of my mouth, but I’d often drink to take the edge off.

Until I realized that there was a better way.

And embracing QUIET was the way. (Thank you YOGA for teaching me this gem!)

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Yoga is life.

QUIET allows me to hear my own thoughts. The biggest creations that I’ve birthed in my business have come during QUIET TIME, which freaking cracks me up because I can still hear my mother telling me to “shhhh” as a kid when it was “QUIET TIME.”

QUIET allows my prospects, clients and students to feel the TENSION between where they are now and where they want to be. It’s in that TENSION that they realize CHANGE is required and it’s up to THEM to make that change.

I’ll LEAD the way, but they’ve got to take the NEXT STEP.

I use QUIET on all of my sales pages, too.

How?

I ask a lot of QUESTIONS throughout the copy. Questions allow the reader to GO INWARD and feel the TENSION of the CHANGE they are being invited to make with me as their GUIDE.

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Questions on top of sales page for Get Gutsy Coach Training School.

I also ask IMPORTANT QUESTIONS on our applications for my various courses, trainings and mastermind.

These QUESTIONS allow the reader to GO INWARD and TOUCH THE TRUTH.

Because living our TRUTH is why we are here!

Sat nam, baby. Sat nam.

QUIET allows YOU to hear your personal truth, to heal and be healed.

QUIET shifts the way you serve your clients in the most PROFOUND way possible.

I recently had one of my MOST PROFOUND coaching sessions in my 8-year coaching career.

My client is going through some massive transition right now. She’s truly in the thick of CHANGE and GRIEF.

And what an HONOR that I get to COACH her through it.

I was coaching her sitting on the bamboo floor of my Sunshine Studio (what I call my gorgeous office!).

I’ve found that I like to be GROUNDED when I coach my clients, especially when we are working through some deep stuff. So sitting or squatting on the floor has become my new go-to pose.

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And as she was sharing where she was and what she was experiencing, I got the HIT to offer up a GUIDED MEDITATION to ease her through this TRICKY TRANSITION.

I asked her how she felt about MEDITATING together and she was game.

The scene was set: I described what I was looking at outside of my sliding glass doors – gorgeous trees, the sun filtering through, and blue skies. She then described her scene.

Finally, I brought her inside, back to center, back to her spiritual home.

She journeyed into the heart of what she was experiencing, she breathed, she reveled in the silence, the space, the feeling of being held.

I felt energies with us during that session. She did too.

Afterward she told me it was one of the most powerful experiences. She thanked me for sharing my gift.

My response: “My pleasure,” followed by quiet.

How can you bring more QUIET into your world?

Don’t rush to fill the space.

Allow the space to bring the SHIFTS that you, your prospects and clients crave.

What you’ll INVITE IN?

Deeper transformation.

Sacred connection.

Increased sales (and clients and students who are ABSOLUTELY committed!)

Peace.

Freedom.

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If you didn’t grab a ticket yet, hop on before it’s too late. I’d love to spend time with you in person!

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Lessons Learned From My 20th High School Reunion

I’m back.

Just experienced a major rite of passage.

My 20-year high school reunion.

Yes, it’s been 20 years since the seniors of New Smyrna Beach High School in New Smyrna Beach, Florida walked across that graduation stage.

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The whole experience is still crystallizing for me, but I want to process it today and share some lessons learned with you.

1. People get older, but the core of who we are stays the same.

I hadn’t seen some of these classmates in 20 years, some in 10 years (since our last reunion), some a few months ago.

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I was particularly excited to reconnect with some of my dearest friends who I had lost touch with, especially some of my buddies from my middle school gifted class. It was fascinating to see what these guys had done with their lives – and frankly, none of it was surprising.

My friend Wes used to wear combat boots to school and draw military-esque pictures in class. Unbeknownst to me, he joined the military while a senior in high school and has been involved in some pretty interesting strategic military assignments all around the world.

Andy was one of my dearest friends. We had some pretty deep philosophical discussions about every subject under the sun. And we went through several years of Spanish class together. I was Lilia in Spanish class. His name was Osvaldo (we got to choose our own Spanish names!) although we often called him Handee. At the reunion, I had the good fortune of meeting his wife and seeing pictures of his children! He recited the lines of our award-winning Spanish skits (his memory is scary strong!). He works in construction management and told me his Spanish skills have come in quite handy on job sites.

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Of all of the other conversations I had during our reunion weekend, no one surprised me with what they were doing in their lives or who they had become. Everyone was simply more of who they were deep down inside.

2. Teachers are angels. Appreciate them.

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I invited my all-time favorite teacher Ms. Isabel McLaughlin to come as our guest to the reunion. We were the first class to ever invite her to a reunion. We reconnected on Facebook a few years ago but hadn’t seen each other since I was in college. It was AMAZING to see her, give her a long hug and thank her for her guidance. She’s also been representing my family during Honors Night when the scholarship in my sister’s name is given to the winners. I’ll always be grateful to her for that!

She was my yearbook teacher so I had her as a teacher for all 4 years of school. Creating the yearbook was one of my fondest memories of high school. She helped me through the death of my sister Julie when I was 16. She didn’t know it, but she did. She actually told me at the reunion she wished she would have done more to help once I started publicly writing about how much hell I went through after Julie died.

That’s why teachers are so RAD!!! They CARE!!! And often they are the most underappreciated people. Let’s change that. Tell your most influential teachers how much you appreciate them. I recently recorded a Periscope video on this.

(If you haven’t downloaded Periscope app to your phone, do it! And follow me at @jennyfenig. I’m totally getting into Periscope and will be doing lots more live broadcasts.)

3. You don’t have to drink alcohol to have a good time.

Back in May, I realized it was time to release alcohol from my life. Perhaps because my reunion was coming up and I was thinking about just how much alcohol had a HUGE affect on my life since I was about 14 years old. It was time to let it go so I can make space for what’s coming.

Honestly, it’s been a lot easier than I thought it would be. My body doesn’t crave it. Instead I crave green juices and green smoothies and tea and sparkling water!

(And I finally – for the first time EVER! – went to our health food store in my hometown. Now that I shop in healthy grocery stores and co-ops, I felt like I was coming home when I smelled the hummus and kale and tofu!)

The hardest part is being in an environment where it seems like everyone else is drinking except you, which is pretty much what a high school reunion feels like.

But I had my drink of choice – sparkling water with lime! – and my commitment to embrace sobriety no matter what.

And then I connected with my friend Tommy who has been sober for about 3 years now. I’m so happy for him! He shared some powerful insight with me about spirituality and sobriety.

I feel good. And I remember everything I did and said (which wasn’t always the case when I was drinking!).

I’m happy for my friends who can drink and still feel good. I’m simply not in that camp anymore so I had to face the facts and not be afraid of change.

4. Deep conversation is where it’s at.

I have no desire for idle chit-chat. I like going DEEP. It’s where I COME ALIVE. I think that’s why I’m so effective as a coach to my clients and students. I want to get to the heart of the matter, ask empowering questions and make a TRUE CONNECTION.

I made it my mission to have as many of those conversations as I could, surround myself with others who have the ability to go DEEP, and enjoy myself.

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Mission accomplished.

If this resonates with you, know that these types of connections are totally possible. Just stop reading the trashy tabloid magazines and watching the cheesy reality shows that boil everything down to gossip and scandal and a dumbing down of women. Don’t gossip! There’s a bigger world out there. Engage in real conversations that matter. Fill your head with powerful messages that will help you live better.

5. Everyone has a story.

I LOVE STORIES!!! I heard so many life-affirming stories at the reunion. One of my faves was by a gal named Jennifer who I played the flute with in 6th and 7th grade. She told me she is over the moon at having become a mother a year ago after 19 years of trying to conceive.

NINETEEN YEARS!!!!!

I about fell down with joy when she shared that with me. I told her she needs to share that story. She told me she’s not a good writer like I am. I told her that if writing isn’t her thing then she needs to SPEAK that story to anyone who will listen because that’s a story worth spreading. It will give people HOPE and FAITH.

You have a story. An inspiring story. SHARE IT.

6. Honor your energy levels.

When engaging in deep connection at a reunion, workshop, event, festival, whatever, HONOR YOUR ENERGY LEVELS.

Know how much gas you have in the tank and don’t run yourself down.

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On Saturday, I had a full day: breakfast with my late sister’s best friend Sandra (hadn’t seen her in 20 years!) and her daughter Chloe; lunch with girlfriends, many of whom I hadn’t seen in years; dinner with aunt and cousin and her kids (meeting them for the first time!); then reunion with classmates.

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An entire crew was going out to Flagler Avenue around 11 p.m. to continue the party. A part of me wanted to go and not miss out on the fun. A larger part of me said, “you’re complete.” I listened to that voice, especially because I was waking up early the next morning to get my daughter from my aunt’s house where she had spent the night.

I felt good in the morning even though I knew I could have made more memories if I went out. I picked up my daughter, took her to the hotel for a nap, then spent time at the beach with one my best friends in the world and her family, plus some of my other classmates.

I’m glad I was feeling good because it took all my energy to play with her in the waves. Mother Ocean is quite powerful and I hadn’t been swimming in her waters in a few years!

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Especially in my work I’ve had to learn how to manage my energy levels or else I BURN OUT and it’s not good.

Listen to your body. She’s always telling you something.

7. What do you need?

As I was preparing for this trip, I realized it was best if my daughter and I stayed in a hotel instead of at my mom’s condo. There are many reasons for this, but at the core it’s so I can call the shots on my schedule and surroundings. I love my mom, but staying together isn’t always the wisest choice. I need space. So I gave it to myself although it kind of made me feel sad to come to this realization.

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But you know what? My daughter and I had the BEST time at our hotel. It was in a great location, we could walk just about everywhere, and I could simply be ME there. Sure, I had extra expenses due to this decision, but I would do it again in a heartbeat.

It’s important to not only look at FINANCIAL COSTS, but EMOTIONAL COSTS due to every decision you make.

As a parent, a good question to ask yourself: “What’s best for the children?”

Honor your truth, your desires and needs and you’ll be in good shape.

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8. That’s what leaders do.

My one regret from the reunion is that we didn’t have some kind of “ice breaker” activity to encourage connection and give us all a chance to update the group on what we’ve been up to these last 20 years. Honestly, I only got a chance to get that info from about 15 people of the 70 or so who were there and I was making my rounds! This is the fascinating part of the entire reunion. I want to know where people live, what makes them tick, what they’ve learned.

Perhaps there is a chance to collect this info from peeps after the fact and pass it around? There are so many stories in our group to be spread! So many ways we can support one another. If you have any ideas, please post them below. I’m all ears!

I wish I would have advocated for more connection at the reunion, but lesson learned! When you’re a leader, you need to feel into the needs of the group and give them opportunities that they may not be aware that they need. Sometimes this makes people uncomfortable, but stepping out of your comfort zone is the key to GROWTH.

What I am proud of creating are memory books for our deceased classmates and speaking on behalf of these angel classmates in front of the group. Our classmates at the reunion wrote messages to them, and I will be sending these books to their parents. As a mother of 3 children, this makes my heart feel good.

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Why do you go to a reunion?

So you can reconnect with where you came from, and recommit to where you’re going.

Thanks for the memories, New Smyrna Beach High School Class of 1995. Proud to be connected to you for LIFE. #nsbhs1995

Onward.

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