Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet … Again

Here we go again …

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Time to expand.

Time to go deeper.

Time to become more VISIBLE.

Time to SURRENDER some more.

The best way to describe what I’m doing is that I’m coming out of the spiritual closet … again. I first wrote about coming out of the spiritual closet a year ago. It was a huge moment for me.

And here I am again. Naked. Exposed. Ready to climb new mountains, including …

  • Closing my free Facebook group of more than 4,000 members and opening up a more curated group of students of my work (I’m choosing to cultivate a sacred circle of women who have read my book and/or signed up for one my programs, retreats or courses through the years)
  • Interviewing Danielle LaPorte for my tribe of leaders about the SOUL OF SERVICE
  • Starting a regular Facebook Live show on my Facebook page (Wednesdays at 12:30 p.m. EST)
  • Opening applications for my mastermind GLOW (and evolving the program so we can serve more women yet stay committed to going DEEP together)
  • Leading several VIP Strategy Retreats for amazing clients
  • Channeling my deceased sister Julie to deliver a message to a client
  • Starting the homeschool journey for both of my boys

I’m writing this after having an extraordinary few days. My husband Steven took our 3 kids to his parents (and to the US Open!) while I opted to stay home and make some magic happen.

I organized the entire house – especially focusing on the playroom, homeschool space, and my office.

I rearranged stuff, threw lots away, had a call with my Facebook ads team (we have an awesome campaign coming at ya!), played with my new revenue model spreadsheet, and created the weekly schedule for our family (color coded it and everything!) including our meal plans. (I spent very little time on the Internet – no distractions!)

And I napped in my hammock. And slept in until 9:30 a.m. one morning!

Holy shit.

I told Steven, just give me regular open space and watch what magic happens. I’m grateful he gets it and gets me.

I need regular alone time. Lots of quiet. This means I must be willing to do things by myself, away from the masses.

If you need this too, speak up about your needs and desires. You don’t do anyone any favors by ignoring your true nature.

When you get quiet, you can hear the small, still voice inside. That voice is the most powerful guide you have. Listen and heed the call.

Listening to that voice is something I help my clients to do. It sounds so easy, right? But it’s not.

We’re conditioned from a young age to listen to everyone else over ourselves. To follow the crowd. To dim our light. To fit in. Don’t be too loud. 

But when you surrender to SPIRIT and the SACRED WORK you are here to do, WATCH THE FUCK OUT.

This is the magical art and science of being a LEADER. I LOVE TO TEACH THIS STUFF to a hungry audience of women on a mission, women who are tired of the bullshit they are seeing online.

What does spiritual business leadership entail?

A connection to SPIRIT and a willingness and discipline to go inward, daily.

The guts to make moves even when you can’t see all of the steps that lie ahead.

The courage to listen to your audience and solve their problems through your elegant solutions (programs, courses, books, podcasts, workshops, retreats, masterminds, sessions, VIP Days, meditations, the list goes on!).

The mindset to price your offerings to profit and to be excited to SELL and SERVE.

Being okay with the critics you attract and trusting that you can follow Michelle Obama’s advice here:

“When they go low, we go high.”

Boom.

Selling is Serving

That’s why the next season of my work is focused on helping my clients GO HIGH in their work >> high vibe, high touch, high end.

The online space is a changing … and I see too many casualties of business where coaches are giving up because they do NOT have a sustainable business model. They are trying to appeal to the masses through a cheap approach. They don’t realize the complexity of trying to grow a business by selling $97 courses alone.

This GO HIGH approach is something I’ve tested out in my own business and am in love with. The quality of client I am attracting now is top notch. These women are committed to doing the work (and slaying the dragons that step on your path along the way).

I want this for you too.

Because burnout is a bitch. And so is not earning enough in your business to give your family the life they (and YOU!) deserve.

When I first “came out of the spiritual closet” by positioning my business as the go-to for spiritual coaches, creatives and entrepreneurs, I’ve gotta tell you: I was a bit concerned about claiming the word “spiritual.”

I don’t consider myself religious, but my spirituality has become more and more core to who I am.

I call in Spirit Guides.

Talk to angels (including my sister Julie).

Pray to God.

Meditate on mountain tops.

Keep crystals on hand.

Diffuse essential oils in my home.

Infuse spirit into my creations.

Have been a practitioner of yoga for 16 years and went on a life-changing trip to India this year.

Spirituality is one of my FAVORITE topics in the whole wide world (in addition to ONLINE BUSINESS + claiming your power as a LEADER).

People who love spirituality as much as I do are my FAVORITE people in the world.

I do my best work when I blend my FAVORITES into one juicy concoction.

And my results prove it.

Don’t be afraid to embrace your spiritual foundation and talk about it in your work.

Many of us have been conditioned to hide for risk of being misunderstood or shunned, but I’m here to say: do not WORRY.

Do not be afraid.

My spiritual relationship keeps me young, curious and wise.

My spiritual relationship is my biggest strength as a CEO, coach, wife, mother and human.

And it’s one of 6 golden keys that make up the strategic framework and crucial support for your beautiful, sustainable growth.

Because I know your mission matters.

And I want to help you MOVE YOUR MISSION FORWARD.

Want to learn from me (for free)?

Awesome because I’m diving DEEP on how to help more people with your sacred work during the 7-day HIGH VIBE CHALLENGE.

Click here to reserve your spot in the free Challenge.

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Would love to have you join us! Going to be a powerful journey.

Touch more lives with your message.

Leverage the tools of technology to expand your platform and make more money.

Close more sales, with ease and grace.

Rise higher in service to your tribe.

Go high: high vibe, high touch, high end.

Click here to reserve your spot in the free Challenge.

“The new spirituality is that it will produce an experience in human encounters in which we become a living demonstration of the basic spiritual teaching ‘We are all one.'” – Neale Donald Walsch

Stay with me … we’re going someplace worth going.

Signature xoxo Jenny

I See Things Before They Happen

It took me many, many years to understand my powers of SEEING.

I have a gift for seeing events in the future before they happen.

When I was younger, this ability freaked me out. I used to push it away. Doubt it. Darken it.

Until I surrendered … and embraced this ability for the betterment of my people and myself.

I can SEE the power and potential of a venue, an experience, a program before it actually occurs. Then I create something TANGIBLE out of THIN AIR.

With the SEEING, comes the FEELING.

The visual opens me up to the TRANSFORMATIONAL EXPERIENCE that will be had.

I’ve harnessed this power to lead more than a dozen retreats through the years(this email contains some OMG shots from my most recent retreat in TULUM – saw these images before they actually happened) … oodles of programs … and more creative projects than I can count.

I trust my hunches … because I know they are taking me to where I’m meant to serve at my highest level.

I’m being called into greater levels of service and expansion … and it feels absolutely amazing (and at times, terrifying too!).

One thing you’ve gotta deal with on this quest > REJECTION.

 You’re going to be told NO more times than you’ll be told YES. Ain’t no shame in that, love! REVEL IN THE NO. Because you’re that much closer to an ALIGNED YES.

Easier said than done?

I feel you.

Today on my FB page Jenny Fenig, I gave a talk on DEALING WITH REJECTION.

It was powerful. Thanks to everyone who came!

Here’s a link to the video.

Excited to see your comments when you watch!

Click here to dive in now.

xoxo

Jenny

PS – Full moon energy tonight. Very, very powerful time.

PPS – Save the date >> I’m doing another FB Live this Wednesday, August 9 at 12:30 p.m. EST (9:30 a.m. PST) on …

 IT’S A NUMBERS GAME

My intention is to help you create more GROWTH in your spirit-led business. Something you’ve gotta know >> the more shots you take, the more you’ll make (and the more you’ll miss).

TAKE THE SHOT!

“Like” my FB page to stay in the loop when I broadcast live.

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I returned home to Massachusetts a few days ago, after having wrapped up an extraordinary 5-day GLOW mastermind retreat in Tulum, Mexico.

Being rocked to sleep and awakened each morning by the sounds of the waves in the Caribbean Sea was something I’ll never forget (neither will my clients).

Our resort was literally steps to the beach. We were essentially barefoot the whole time with sand between our toes!

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It’s hard to describe exactly what we experienced here, but I’ll try because I want you to lead transformational + premium experiences for your people too …

There is a magic in Tulum, a pulse, a beat that lives inside your soul.

Forever grateful to the land, the people, the animals (sea turtles are laying their eggs now!), and my clients for making this dream real.

Walking the path of a spiritual entrepreneur is a wild, mystical adventure filled with twists and turns.

What I know to be true: you never walk alone.

As the leader, it’s my job to hold sacred space for my clients to make discoveries, make moves and shed layers they’ve outgrown. It’s my job to listen, guide and help them be all they were designed to be … in their work and in all other areas.

One of my superpowers is leading transformational (I don’t use this word lightly) retreats. No one does it like I do. No one. Of this I’m sure.

Designing the flow of my retreats is a sacred act. Retreats are meant to be spacious and expansive and deep.

There is power in this type of immersion. True transformation occurs when the leader is in alignment with the process and with her people.

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(It’s funny >> in Mexico, I remembered that I’ve been leading leadership retreats since college as president of the Public Relations Student Society of America at the University of Florida. Want to know what you’re great at? Go back to your youth!)

Anyway, at the end of the retreat in Mexico, I asked my clients for testimonials about their experience (you need to always be asking your clients for testimonials too!).

It’s powerful to see your strengths reflected back to you …

My client Lori Gibson-Washington, The Calming Communications Coach, put into words what I feel in my soul …

“Jenny is a go-to retreat leader. Jenny is THE go-to retreat leader. I’ve attended many retreats, conferences and workshops through the years. Many have great content, but are so time precise that precious journaling and discussion time is cut short. Jenny leads her audience, feels the vibe, and runs the sessions accordingly. She is truly a master retreat leader.”

I feel that retreats are an essential ingredient in high-end program design. That’s why I tend to include them in my premium programs. I lead both online and in-person retreats. I love them all … though nothing comes close to in-person retreats in powerful destinations!

The Tulum retreat was part of a larger premium program that I lead called GLOW. (You can hop on the waitlist for our next group here.)

Do you want to lead high-end experiences for your soulmate clients? I hope that you do. Because there is nothing more fabulous and powerful (for the client and you).

I’ve been designing and selling premium programs for 8 years now.

The highest priced program I’ve sold (so far!) is $15,000. The most cash I’ve received in one month from my business is close to $40,000 (note: cash is different than sales generated/contracts booked). I’ve launched programs that have generated sales of 6-figures during the launch.

On the flip side, I’ve also sold $97 courses. Offered events and retreats for a few hundred dollars. (It’s an entirely different model to sell low-end offers.)

Having been around the block and back again, I now am celebrating the beauty of what I call GOING HIGH >> high-vibe, high-touch, high-end.

While I love being able to help people with my free or low-end offers, the people I can do the deepest work with are those who invest in my premium programs. I’ve seen it time and time again >> when you invest, you’re invested.

My best students and clients are those who invest at the highest levels. Because they are truly on the line for their growth and results.

It’s very easy to pay $297 for a course and never do anything with the material. You haven’t wasted THAT much money. But imagine what happens when you spend $2,997 or $29,997. (And imagine what happens when your clients invest at that level too.)

Do you think you’re going to not show up for the work that’s required to get a return on that investment? (Do you think your clients won’t show up or do the work?)

And that’s the whole point.

The investment in working with a coach is the investment in your growth. In your evolution. In you achieving your gutsy goals.

In you being a gutsy leader of wisdom.

PS – I want to help you to create and sell high-end offers to your soulmate clients! Ready?

I have a few spots available in my brand new small group coaching immersion. Imagine: working with me closely to build out your premium packages. It’s time to GO HIGH.

To apply for a spot, go here now. Application deadline = Friday, August 11.

Your application will go right to my inbox. I’m all about high-touch in my business 🙂

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What Death Taught Me

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Death.

Curiosity led me to the dictionary to see the official definition …

the act of dying; the end of life; the total and permanent cessation of all the vital functions of an organism.

These words feel so final.

So firm.

So “end of story.”

And yet for me, death is where the story truly begins anew.

Where one chapter certainly ends, but another one begins. This next chapter is typically filled with grief disguised as coping behaviors ranging from moderately healthy to downright destructive.

I know this to be very true.

“Jenny, why all the talk about death?” you may be asking.

I’ll tell you why … today is the 23rd anniversary of my sister Julie’s passing.

She was 12 years old when she died from brain cancer.

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I was 16.

It was brutal.

Her short life and relatively short illness (around 13 months) changed my entire world and worldview.

While I couldn’t grasp the magnitude of what this meant at that moment in time, the last 23 years have brought with them plenty of time and space to wrestle with the questions … and to connect deeply with angelic and spiritual realms.

One thing I’ve learned about death is that anniversaries bring stuff to the surface.

When this happens to you, don’t be freaked out.

It’s normal.

Since Julie’s death on February 27, 1994, every February since has brought with it some very interesting energy.

It’s hard to exactly describe the vibe of February, but I’ll simply say: it teaches me something every time.

Memories from her final days come flooding back.

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I have vivid dreams.

I tend to want to sleep more.

I’m more emotional and prone to “all or nothing” feelings.

I book a trip or a training or buy something big that we need (or all of the above).

I make decisions.

I make moves.

I see the bigger picture.

My vision becomes more clear.

I’m grateful that her death doesn’t trigger me anymore. I’m grateful that I’ve released the guilt and the shame and anger.

I carried that stuff for 2 decades until I just couldn’t take it anymore.

I had to let go.

For my sanity.

And my family.

And my future.

EMDR work with my therapist helped immensely.

So did baring my soul in my book and writing a very detailed memoir-style account about my sister’s last day in her body (straight up, Chapter 3 wrecked me when I wrote it).

What I now know to be true when it comes to pain, especially related to death and grief …

You’ve got to feel it to heal it.

Babe, do NOT be afraid to feel things. Good things. Hard things. Amazing things. Shitty things. Confusing things.

Feeling your feelings is a gift.

Feeling your feelings can also be fucking terrifying!

Much of the world is absolutely freaked out by their feelings. So they numb out with alcohol or drugs or work or the internet or TV or sex or shopping or food or non-stop noise.

The goal: Comfortably numb.

But numb isn’t comfortable.

Numb is a cop out.

Numb is an escape.

What I’ve learned: You can’t bypass grief.

It will come and get you because it has something to teach you.

Trust the waves of grief, and grief will transform you.

The grief will move through you and crack you open in ways that let the let shine through.

Do not be afraid.

This is what happened to me.

I ran, ran, ran, ran so damn hard for so many years from the grief and shame and anger about Julie.

I managed to finish high school and go away to college although I really wanted to stay home and go to our community college. I wanted to continue being the big fish in the small pond but my mom wouldn’t let me. I’ll always be grateful to her for that. I could have gotten really stuck if I would have stayed.

I numbed out in college and still managed to graduate summa cum laude and land my dream job in New York City.

I partied my ass off in my 20s while working my ass off only to realize that I was working in the wrong career and had to start over again.

How did I know?

Because I stopped and got quiet.

It was when I got quiet and asked myself what I was doing that I got the answer … from none other than my sister Julie.

She had been guiding me all along but I often would forget. I’d lose her. I’d lose the connection to her amidst the noise and the running and the climbing the ladder.

I’d forget why I was here … because I was too consumed by the fact that she wasn’t.

Until I remembered that she was still here. She is still here. She’s here.

She’s always been here.

The more I’ve embraced this, the more my life expands beyond my wildest dreams.

My business evolves and shape shifts and attracts in the most amazing people I get to teach and coach and serve.

And Julie’s with me every step of the way.

She gives me names of programs. (Julie literally whispered the name of my mastermind GLOW when I was in the midst of launching it a few years ago.)

She comes with me on my retreats all over the world.

Helps me deal with the stuff I don’t want to deal with.

She stays in the room with me.

She believes in me, still.

She was always my biggest fan. Still is.

It is Julie, as well as the spirits of my best friend Sonda Deskins and her brother Mark Deskins, that allow me to walk in faith.

I was dealt 3 deaths in 3 years – at 16, 17 and 19 years old. You better believe these deaths have shaped me.

Humbled me.

Haunted me.

Humored me.

Given me perspective that most don’t have.

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Mark.

Sonda.

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They all died young.

None of us were ready.

And yet here we are.

These brave souls are my Spirit Guides.

The ones who remind me to live well. And to be ALIVE while I am in fact alive.

“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75.” – Benjamin Franklin

To honor the call of my soul.

To be a non-conformist.

To zig when others zag.

To go on awesome vacations with my family.

To go to India for my 40th birthday.

To bring something to the surface now that I wasn’t planning on … but am surrendering into anyway.

To care deeply.

And to not care at all.

To surrender … and surrender some more.

To embrace that done is better than perfect. (Come to my free training on this very topic!)

And to care about the opinions of a very, very small number of people.

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” – Norman Cousins
And to scare myself, regularly.
Push myself to the limit to see what I’m made of.
And to surround myself with others who embrace this energy too.
Because I don’t have time for bullshit or excuses or reasons why something won’t work.
I’m not interested in hanging out with flakes or fakers or quitters or people unwilling to deal with their shit.
“Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway.” – John Wayne

Because death has taught me that it comes without asking permission. It comes without fairness. It comes slowly and swiftly and quickly and messily and perfectly and tragically.

It comes.
Leaving a lot of unfinished business in its wake.
The ultimate mystery we are all living with is WHEN WILL WE DIE?
The question I encourage you to ask yourself >> what will you do between now and the time of your death?
What do you want to see?
What do you want to create?
What changes will you make?
How will you love?
Who will you love?
Where will you go?
What will you do?
Who will you be?
When will you stop waiting?

My work is dedicated to helping you live truthfully … so that when you die, you will die happy. And you will die free.

And the world will rejoice that you were alive … and you mattered because you helped others feel that they mattered too.

This is it.
This is what it’s all about.
Life, death and what comes between.
This is Jenny Fenig sending you so much love, light + faith as you Get Gutsy. I’ll see you next time.
Signature xoxo Jenny

P.S. This very concept of DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT will change your life forever.

My upcoming free training is custom made for you.
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From Burned Out to Filled Up

It’s my final morning in Costa Rica.

I’m sitting outside on my balcony in my comfy plush robe listening to the birds and roosters do their thing (I’m going to miss them!).

The view in the distance is stunning.

I came here to hold space for my mastermind clients to transform and rise higher in their work.

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What I didn’t realize when I got here is that I came here to heal and get clarity about the next steps on my journey.

Last year was the most financially successful year in my business. I’m proud of that. We tested a lot of things to see what works and what doesn’t.

More than $40,000 worth of Facebook ads, oodles of Facebook livestreams, 5 free Challenges, 4 live events, VIP Days, webinars, and close to 100 podcast episodes.

A LOT of creation and growth.

A LOT of time invested.

A LOT of people helped.

And in the last quarter of the year: BURNOUT.

Burnout from the chase.

Burnout from shaky boundaries.

Burnout from working through a major parenting challenge with my oldest son Sean while simultaneously leading a very complex launch of Get Gutsy Coach Training School.

As we ended the year, I simply knew that I could NOT continue doing business and life in that same way for 2017.

No effing way.

My body was starting to feel weak.

I was angry and tired.

This weeklong retreat in Costa Rica could not have come at a better time, not just for me, but for my clients.

Oh, the layers that were shed. The tears. The epiphanies. The healing.

I got back to my roots: COACHING THROUGH A SPIRITUAL LENS.

I led sacred circle, journeywork, meditation. Used essential oils, sage, palo santo and fire. Built altars. Called in angels, spirit guides and healers.

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Gave valuable feedback as each client went to the front of the room (usually barefoot) to deliver their talk that will help them attract more juicy clients.

Coached my clients to pivot. And surrender. And attract more of what they want while saying NO to what they’ve outgrown.

My people are all going home with a plan to bring in sacred sales, confidence that it can be easy and fun … and a deep connection to their soul.

As for me, I’m going home healed. Lighter. And focused on who I REALLY am.

As my client Christine Dyan described me, I’m a “business coach and spiritual guide all in one.”

It’s so easy to follow the crowd. Listen to the noise. Forget your true essence and what you LOVE to do and are fucking great at.

When you are growing a business, you feel like there are a million things to do to be successful.

When you strip all the noise away, typically what you need to focus on is this >> understanding your ideal client and selling them what they want AND what is in alignment with your greatest gift.

In one word: SALES.

Yes, there are important strategies and tactics that support selling, but sales is what you need to be looking at.

I don’t want you to get overwhelmed by all of the options out there – list-building, podcasts, telesummits, videos, blogging, retreats, social media, livestreams, live events, masterminds, challenges, ads.

OMG – head spins, right?

Less is more here. It’s the way of the essentialist.

This retreat in Costa Rica started out as a divine download in a Kundalini yoga class last summer. I heard the message loud and clear, “Jenny, it’s time to lead a retreat in Costa Rica.”

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I hope my story is living proof that when you work with Spirit in your business, you will live a life beyond your wildest dreams.

Honestly, there is no other way. This is the way.

Many thanks to the angels + spirit guides who assisted in the transformative journey this week.

Our altar is an ode to the spiritual path that forms the foundation of my work.

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A cycle has ended for me … and fresh beginnings call me forward.

I don’t know exactly where 2017 will take me (that’s the fun of it!), but I do know I walk in faith.

And I am so excited to deeply support lightworker leaders in experiencing sacred success without the stupid burnout that is SO unnecessary and so rampant in this industry.

Stop trying to slay a larger to-do list and instead say NO to anything that steals your joy. Say NO to the noise + the compare + despair trap. Say NO to the race to nowhere.

Leave space for the OMG YES that will take you where your soul yearns to go.

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P.S. Want to coach privately with me?

I am excited to announce that I’ll be supporting a small number of private clients to help you grow your business in 2017. This is the first time in a while that I’ve opened up space to work with me 1:1. It simply feels right.

When we work closely together, I can really get to know you and your work inside out. We can eliminate all that isn’t serving you and ensure you are on a pathway to sacred success.

Honestly I’m excited to receive more of these emails from clients >>

Subject line: I DID IT

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You can add me to your success list of clients who run a six figure business.

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Boom.

Boom.

Boom.

If you want to discuss working together, fill out an application here before the spots are filled.

It’s go time.

Let’s map out your plan for 2017 so YOU too can live a life beyond your wildest dreams.

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