The First-Time Ever + Our New Ice Rink

If you’re looking for my boys this winter, they’ll be in our front yard skating on our new rink!

This ice rink was all Steven’s doing. He saw something I couldn’t see. I’ve learned to trust his vision and he’s learned to trust mine. We still freak each other out at times, but we have that foundation of faith in each other.

Our good fortune keeps growing beyond the beyond.

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When I met Steven 15 years ago, I had recently ended a 2-year relationship. I had pretty much sworn off men so I could fully focus on my public relations career. I was working on a global campaign for my client Pfizer and traveling around the world with our celebrity spokesperson Pele, the soccer superstar.

But one Friday night in 2003, Steven and I met at the front desk of our huge apartment building in New York City. I had sworn off men remember, especially Jewish men since I had dated a few and they tended to eventually freak out that I wasn’t Jewish (my Shiksa Goddess appeal could only take us so far!).

Well there he was. And there I was.

I was closed off at first. But my intuition kept nudging me to pay attention to this man.

And my intuition is never wrong. It was right on that evening. I listened. And everything changed for the better …

Are you listening to your intuition? Or are you doubting it? Forcing things to work that simply aren’t meant to? Pushing too hard? Ignoring your body and what she’s telling you about people, your work, your world?

My greatest gifts, wins + growth have come from me honoring my intuition.

It’s time I help you tune into yours so you can be, do and have what you desire in 2018.

So … for the first-time ever, I’m leading an online workshop on INTUITION.

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The theme …

ACTIVATE YOUR INTUITION

Tune In. Rise Up. Do Less. Make More.

Tuesday, January 23

7:00 – 9:30 pm EST (4:00 – 6:30 p.m. PST)

You can attend online from wherever you are located in this beautiful world.

A recording will be sent to all who register.

No fancy sales page. Just a simple invitation to stop working so hard (and counterintuitively) to get what you want.

Click here to get your spot (recording included).

Absolute love,

Jenny

P.S. The photo of me in this email was taken during my last mastermind retreat.

Want to join me + a few fellow ambitious women at my next retreat in Costa Rica, March 24 – 29?

There are a few spots left. Includes coaching with me, masterminding, 5 nights at our epic resort + a photo shoot.

Comment below for an application. Going to be MAGIC.

The Power of the Pause

As I write this, I’m overlooking the Atlantic Ocean. It’s freaking HUGE. I’m in love.

Steven and I stayed the night in a hotel on Ft Lauderdale Beach while the kids stayed with his parents.

One word for you … MAGIC.

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24 hours together.

To make it even sweeter, this getaway was during the tail end of my 2-week social media sabbatical + time off from work.

Holy wow.

I am a new woman.

I have a newfound appreciation for Steven because I’ve taken the time to get to know him again.

What his dreams are. What he’s afraid of. What we want to do together in this brand new year. How we can better support and love each other.

Life with young kids will have an impact on your relationship. Fact.

It’s easy to forget what it was like with just the 2 of us.

But now I remember again.

I’m grateful for my man and the close to 15 years we’ve spent loving each other.

I’m grateful for this PAUSE I’ve just taken in my work (honestly pausing is when the work truly begins).

I’m grateful I wasn’t afraid of becoming irrelevant for stepping away from social media for a bit.

I went INSIDE. Got cozy with my family. I know where I’m headed next. I’m in faith.

Whatever I missed I was meant to miss. And what I gained was gold. I will share much of this with you.

In the coming weeks I will reveal the next level of what I’m here to teach. It may surprise you … or not 😘

The power of the pause brought so much clarity and space in my head.

I am in flow.

I am home.

Sooooo excited about what we’ll create in 2018 + beyond.

Absolute love,
Jenny ❤️

Keeping Your Marriage Alive As You Build Your Business

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I’ve been obsessed with relationships since I was a young girl.

My parents divorcing when I was in 4th grade (they separated when I was a 2nd grader) definitely had something to do with it. As I got older and started dating, I started analyzing the ingredients of a healthy relationship.

This analysis took the form of lots of experimentation in the dating realm! Most of my experiments involved crashing and burning. Some were rather successful.

In college at the University of Florida, I was so interested in exploring the dynamics of relationships that I took a course called Marriage and Family. I learned the ins and outs of divorce rates and how to not be a statistic (marrying later tended to be helpful, according to the data back in 1999).

I knew I wanted to have all of the knowledge, tips and tricks to build a healthy relationship that could withstand the ups and downs of life, children, career shifts, relocation, you name it.

When I met Steven in February 2003 and we decided to spend our lives together, it was exciting.

“Finally! He’s here,” I gushed.

During our engagement, I talked him in to going to a “Marriage Success Workshop” in NYC. So smart!

We learned communication skills, how to read each other’s body language and that if you only have sex when you’re not tired or in the mood then you’ll never have sex (true!).

All of this training and digging deep and loving each other through thick and thin has led to us being married for 10 years. It still blows me away that we’ve been married for a decade.

We’ve been through job changes, business evolution, financial changes, the birth of 3 children, moving from NYC to Massachusetts, celebration and disappointment.

There have been days where I’ve wanted to DRIVE far, far away BY MYSELF and DISAPPEAR.

There are days when we get on each other’s nerves!

There are days when I want to never hear another word about the Cleveland Browns.

There are days when all I want to do is work on my business and help my people.

I’m at a point in my business where things are TAKING OFF in new and exciting ways. I literally could stay up until 2 a.m. every night and still have a shitload of stuff to take care of the next day. It’s that full on.

So when Steven came to me recently with a last minute opportunity to go to Orlando, Florida for a work trip he was going on, I very easily could have said, “NO!”

Our kids had just gone back to school and I was FINALLY settling back into a rhythm, which I desperately needed!

My plate was overflowing: enrolling students in Get Gutsy Coach Training School, preparing for my retreat ALCHEMY Live, serving my current clients, and building out a brand new initiative that I’ll be ready to share with you soon. Plus, I’m in Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass Level 1 and am prepping to take Level 2 next month.

See what I’m talking about? FULL PLATE.

But instead of letting FEAR make my decision (will I fall behind? can I handle a flight with 3 kids? will it be too hot in Florida?), I allowed LOVE to take over instead.

LOVE for my marriage, LOVE for my family, LOVE for my mom (who lives near Orlando), LOVE for adventure, and LOVE for my tribe who benefits when I’m HAPPY EXPLORING THE WORLD.

And I remembered why I built my business the way I have … because my goal has always been MAXIMUM FREEDOM + FLEXIBILITY. When I started out on my entrepreneurial journey in 2008, I always said I wanted the ability to work when I want, with whom I want and where I want.

And that has been my driving force.

Because I never wanted to choose between WORK + ADVENTURE.

I never wanted to have to allocate 2 or 4 or 6 week’s vacation time over the course of the year.

I wanted FULL control over my schedule.

Because calling my own shots and going on adventures – big, small and everything in between – lights me UP.

That’s why entrepreneurship + the coaching life is so perfect for me + my family.

So I said YES to Steven’s invitation because it was the best decision for our family. It allowed us to keep our SPARK burning.

The awesome thing is that during the 3-night trip, my business generated $6,000. When I wasn’t at Animal Kingdom or Epcot, I was able to serve my students in my Tribe Building Bootcamp course. And I hosted a last-minute meetup and got to hang out with one of my students (and her kids!) in the next class of my coach certification course.

Don’t you just love online business? I DO! I DO!

Don’t you just love marriage? I DO! I DO!

Don’t you just love BUSINESS + MARRIAGE? I DO! I DO!

I’m curious … why did you fall in love with your partner or spouse?

What shared passions do you have?

How are you doing breathing life into your BUSINESS + your RELATIONSHIP?

Where might you need support?

It’s a delicate balancing act for sure.

For our 5 year wedding anniversary, we went to a couples retreat at Kripalu called “Finding Passion and Joy in Your Relationship.” We made vision boards that pulled us into our next chapter.

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Steven’s vision board in 2010

My vision board in 2010

My vision board in 2010

That retreat led us to the clarity that we were ready to move out of NYC and relocate to the Berkshires of Massachusetts. I share the whole story in my bestselling book “Get Gutsy.”

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Stockbridge Bowl across from Kripalu

Would a retreat be good for the two of you?

Would regular date night?

Would having a digital detox day where you don’t look at your devices or work on your business?

Feel your way into this. Your relationship depends on it.

I encourage you to think about what unites YOUR FAMILY. Write down your ideas. Important stuff.

In our case, Steven and I fell in love over a shared passion for travel and seeing the world. As parents, this continues to unite us as a family.

When Steven travels for work, we make a strong effort to join him. This isn’t always possible (like this coming weekend when he heads to a college football game in Mobile, Alabama).

But often we can journey together to a new place or simply some other home away from home that we want to check out! We pull the strings, make the plans, shack up in one hotel room (first night is always the hardest!), and explore this beautiful planet.

When it’s all said and done, I want us to be able to say: we spent as much time together having fun and spreading joy as we could.

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Exploring the great city of Montreal!

Enjoy your relationship, friends. Enjoy your business.

Enjoy the highs and the lows.

Surrender, have faith and trust that you’re being led.

Live it up. Love is all there is.

P.S. If you want to create your own location-independent lifestyle as a coach, check out my free training I created for new and aspiring coaches ready to make a great living and a difference in the world. Would love to have you there. You can sign up here.

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How I Met My Husband: 4 Steps to Attract What (or Whom) You Desire

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Today is my 9 year wedding anniversary! Hooray.

What a ride it has been.

Being the daughter of divorced parents, I’ve made it my mission to learn everything I could about creating a successful marriage so we can go the distance together.

I took a semester-long “Marriage and Family” course in college. Steven and I took a “Marriage Success Workshop” when we were engaged. And then for our 5 year anniversary, we attended a couples retreat at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health.

Opening myself up to a healthy romantic relationship has been one of the biggest growth experiences of my life.

Before I met my husband, I had pretty much sworn off men having recently ended a long relationship and refocusing my energy on my public relations career in New York City.

But lo and behold, there he was in the lobby of my apartment building one cold Friday night in February 2003. We struck up a conversation that made me come alive and trust the beauty of Divine Timing.

And that began the adventure of a lifetime that keeps me on my toes to this very day.

I always love hearing how partners met … and thought it would be fun to tell the story of how Steven and I met. So I created a video sharing our story, along with some universal wisdom to help you attract in anything (or anyone) you desire.

Check it out here and enjoy!

Qualities of a Supportive Romantic Partner

Today I’m answering a question from a fabulous woman in my tribe named Wendy.

Wendy’s question: “The kind of support we receive at home has a direct impact on our business. You seem to have a husband who supports you in your mission. What kind of qualities would you say he has that allow you to be successful in business?”

Wendy, I love this question, and thanks for seeing that I have created a very healthy partnership with my husband. He does recognize that I have a calling and that I’m on a mission. I have a gift that I really want to share with the world. Honestly, I have no choice but to share it … my calling has become that intense inside of my soul.

So, I was very clear with him from the beginning that this is who I am. I’m very driven by my career and my path.

Even after we had children, I knew that my gift was not to solely be a stay-at-home mother. I give all the credit to the women for whom that is the path, but I knew that I had a different mission. And I was really clear with my husband about that.

I’m thankful that he understood that I was on this path, because not every guy that I dated did. It’s not for every man to have a women who is strong, who may make more money than him, or who is driven by her divine feminine energy.

As a couple, you need to ask yourself and each other if you have the same values in your relationship. You need to know that you can support each other’s dreams. This are really important.

Want some more insight into how I manifested a supportive life partner and how you can do the same? Even if you are already in relationship, this video tip will give you insight into how to strengthen your relationship with each other (I reveal something on the video that my husband and I did to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary that changed the course of our marriage forever).

Check out this video for more on this mission-critical topic.

P.S. Want to learn how to get the support you need on your mission-driven path? You need to create your DREAM TEAM. Your romantic partnership is just ONE part of this dream team. I’ll teach you how to create your dream team in my 8-week Live Your Dream Challenge. Come on in! We start February 1! http://www.theliveyourdreamchallenge.com